This refers to women as well, but since I am a lady, I’ll speak about men a little more. There’s a difference between being handsome/beautiful and attractive. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized the secret and the cause of how men get more attractive. I put my own meanings to these two words:
Being handsome (or beautiful) is looking good on the physical, outer appearance, which I’d say is probably a good definition to sum it up… except, any man can be handsome. It’s the attractiveness that I now find myself looking for in a guy.
I have put my own definition for “attractive” after seeing a lot of my guy and also lady friends in my Youth Group go through this. For example, there was a young man who was handsome, but he was on and off about his relationship with God. He had struggles, like everybody, but he never did grasp the concept of what it meant to continually grow in his relationship with God. He went to a camp with us, and afterwards, you could see an instant change in him. He couldn’t stop talking about God, couldn’t stop praising God, and he didn’t know what words to say unless they included something about God. I may be exaggerating a bit, but after camp, he had all the girls all over him because he instantly became more attractive.
Another example, a guy started coming to our church, just to find a place to help him grow in the Lord. When he began coming, he began to become more hungry for God’s presence. Now, every time he comes to church, he becomes more attractive with each step he takes to get closer to God. Are you getting me now?
Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.
Being attractive (my definition) is when you have a relationship with God, but not only that, but you also continue to grow and burn for Him. Cleanliness is automatically attractiveness. So purifying yourself and repenting to get close to God is part of being attractive. Becoming close to God is the most attractive thing a guy or girl can do. That kind of attractiveness can make up for ANY lack of handsomeness or beauty. When you are eager and hungry for His presence, and you speak life and love with each word, that’s what is attractive. Outer beauty and handsomeness will fade, but the closeness with God makes you MORE attractive with age. So it’s basically a trade off. Outer beauty fades, but your faith gets stronger.
God himself is the most attractive man alive. They say you become who you hang out with. If we spent so much more time with God, do you understand how attractive we would all be? I’m being silly at the moment, but it’s true. The closer you get to God, the brighter you shine.
2 Corinthians 4:16
So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self his being renewed day by day.
My dad has always told me that the boys see the Jesus in you. Sometimes, they don’t even know why they are attracted to you. They just see some kind of light about you, and that’s what attracts them. Same to you men.
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Now the question is, how do you become this attractive? No, this shouldn’t be your main goal. Maybe, how do you get SO close to God? It’s grasping the concept and understanding that God is not a priority. He’s not on the To Do List, but He is in and part of our everyday life. Prayer is what you should base your life on, and The Word is what you should stand on.
The LORD is near to all who call upon Him, To all who call upon Him in truth.
It starts off by just laying down your life for Him. He is the true love our hearts desire. Nothing and no one on this Earth can fulfill or replace that kind of true love. He desperately desires to embrace us. But it starts off by us laying down our hearts for Him, letting him purify us, and receiving the love He wants to pour on us. He is near, but it takes us to call out with our words for us and Him to be truly close. He wants to be close to us like the kind of big hugs embraced by people that are desperately longing for a hug. He’s desperately longing to become close with you. It doesn’t matter how attractive you’ll get, even though that’s nice; the closeness with God is what matters.
I hope this was helpful, family. Sometimes we need a refill and refreshing of God’s fire in our lives. Burn for Him, continue to grow in your relationship, and be attractive!